Kuyambira kale, mgwirizano wa mwamuna ndi mkazi unkatengedwa kukhala woyera. Kufunika ndi kufunika kwa banja kumazindikiridwa ndi zipembedzo zonse zoyendetsa dziko, holide yapadziko lonse - Tsiku la Banja laperekedwa kwa ilo. M'dziko lamakono lino, banja silinayambe kufunikira, ngakhale kulipiritsa koposera malamulo - zomwe zimatchedwa "ukwati wachibadwidwe". Komabe, monga chilolezo sichidzabwezeretsa choyambiriracho, kotero palibe chikhalidwe cha banja lenileni chingakhale choyenera m'malo mwa mgwirizano wovomerezeka wa anthu achikondi.
Monga mukudziwira, anthu sangathe kukhalapo popanda banja, ndipo ndi makolo omwe amapanga maziko omwe ali ndi udindo wowoneka ndi kulera ana, chitukuko chawo. Komabe, ntchito yovutayi ikuchitika m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Winawake amadzakhala yekha, akukhulupirira kuti saloledwa kupereka chithandizo chilichonse ku dzikolo. Wina amalerera mwana mmodzi, amamukonda komanso amamukonda, nthawi zina amawombera ndodo, ndikutulutsa m'dziko lonse lathunthu. Winawake amaona kuti ndi udindo wawo kubereka ana ochuluka omwe angathe kudyetsedwa ndi kudyetsedwa, komanso pali mabanja omwe, pamodzi ndi mabanja awo, amakhalanso ndi ana ovomerezeka.
Banja limene ana oposa atatu akukula m'dziko lathu akuonedwa kuti ali ndi ana ambiri. Kodi ubwino wa banja lotere ndi uti? Kodi banja lalikulu ndi mavuto ake akulu amasiyana bwanji ndi mabanja omwe akulera ana mmodzi kapena awiri?
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti maganizo omwe ali nawo pamabanja akuluakulu angathe kuonedwa ngati amodzi mwa mavuto akuluakulu. Otsutsa mabanja omwe ali ndi ana ambiri, kutsutsana kwakukulu ndikuti, chifukwa cha kusadziŵika kwa moyo wamasiku ano, munthu ayenera kuganizira zinthu zakuthupi ndi kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha ana omwe banja lina likhoza kulera. Othandizira kuganiza mimba ndizosavomerezeka, ndipo banja lalikulu ndilo maziko a chikhalidwe cha dziko.
Komabe, oimira mabanja omwe ali ndi ana ambiri ali ndi mavuto okwanira popanda kukambirana. Komanso, mbali zakuthupi sizofunika kwambiri. Ndipo izi sizowopsa, chifukwa ana ambiri amabadwa m'mabanja a okhulupilira amene amadalira thandizo la Mulungu, kapena m'mabanja omwe chuma chimapatsa iwo nsapato, zovala, chakudya, kuphunzitsa ndi kuphunzitsa. Ndipo mosiyana, monga momwe moyo umasonyezera, kupeza ndalama zakuthupi ndi malo abwino kwambiri a nyumba sikuthandiza mabanja akulu: m'mabanja oterowo, monga lamulo, mwana yekhayo.
Koma sizingatheke kuti tisiyane ndi chikhalidwe chathu, makamaka ngati tilingalira kuti phindu ndi ndalama zoperekedwa kwa mabanja akulu sizigwirizana ndi zosowa zilizonse. Palinso ndondomeko yotereyi - mavuto osauka komanso ndalama zochepa zimachepetsa chiwerengero cha ana m'banja. Inde, maganizo omwe makolo ali nawo kuti amvetsetse zofunikira ndi chitukuko ndizofunika kwambiri: pambuyo pake, banja lirilonse liri ndi phindu lake. Wina ndi nyumba yako yokha silingaganize zokwanira kubadwa ndi maphunziro a ana angapo, ndipo wina angakhale ndi zokwanira ku nyumba ziwiri izi zogona. Chinthu choipa kwambiri pa izi ndi chakuti ana amachita ngati "ogwidwa" kumalingaliro a makolo kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Zoipiraipira, pamene iwo amakhala "ogwidwa" akudzizindikiritsa okha makolo. M'dziko lamakono, akazi amakopeka kwambiri ndi azimayi a bizinesi, ntchito ndi amuna kusiyana ndi udindo wa mayi wamasiye m'banja lalikulu. Ndipo ngakhale atayesa kuphatikiza nyumba yaikulu ndi ntchito, sizikawoneka bwino: mphamvu zogwira ntchito zimafuna kubwezeretsa, ndipo mkazi pakhomo akusowa kupuma. Ndipo ana amafunikira amayi, palibe ana omwe angathe kubwezeretsa.
Imodzi mwa mavuto a banja lililonse ndikulankhulana. Ndipotu, ngakhale kukhala ndi mwana mmodzi, makolo nthawi zambiri amadandaula kuti sangathe kukhala okha, kuti atopa kulankhula naye, chifukwa chofunika kuwamvetsera nthawi zonse. Komabe, m'banja lalikulu, ndi zosavuta - ana okalamba okha akhoza kusamalira achinyamata, kuwatenga, kusewera. Ndipo izi zimakhala zochititsa chidwi kamodzi pa nthawi zingapo: abambo ndi amayi ali ndi nthawi yothetsera mavuto ena, ndipo ana amazoloŵerana kusamalana, phunzirani kukhala oleza mtima komanso oyenera. Ayenera kuchita zambiri payekha, ndipo chifukwa cha izi amadziwa maluso ambiri pamaso pa anzawo, amakula bwino kwambiri. Kuphatikizanso, m'banja lawo, ana amazoloŵera kumvera akulu, kuyamikira chilango, maubwenzi, kulekerera zofuna zawo, kudzichepetsa kwa zolakwa zawo.
N'zoonekeratu kuti mavuto akuluakulu ndi okwanira ndi okwanira mabanja akulu, komanso mabanja omwe ali ndi mwana mmodzi. Chinthu china ndi chakuti mavutowa ndi ofanana, mwa njira zina - mosiyana, ndipo m'mabanja ena makolo ayenera kusankha okha, ndipo ena - ena. Mwachitsanzo, m'mabvuto a matenda opatsirana kwambiri ndi matenda a chimfine, mabanja omwe ali ndi ana ambiri amakhala ndi nthawi zovuta kwambiri - monga lamulo, ngati wina atabweretsa matenda, adzalandira zonse, ndipo chifukwa chake ndalama za mankhwala zimakhala zosawerengeka. Kuloledwa ku yunivesite, malo osungira ana okalamba, ndalama zaukwati - zonsezi ndi zina zambiri ndizo moyo ndi mavuto a mabanja omwe ali ndi ana ambiri. Banja ndi lalikulu, ndipo palinso mavuto ambiri, chifukwa si makolo onse okonzeka kupeza mphamvu zokwanira, kulimba mtima ndi chikondi chosankha pa ana atatu kapena angapo. Palibe amene angatsutse. Koma wina sangathe ndipo samalemekeza awo omwe adasankha kutero monga banja lalikulu.