Masiku ano, zojambula zabwino pa thupi la mkazi sizokongoletsa zokha, komanso njira yoyambirira yodziwonetsera. Sizinali choncho nthawi zonse. Kuyambira kukonzanso kachilomboka, malingaliro okhudza kugonana kofooka ndi zojambula zimasintha kwambiri.
Kwa nthawi yayitali kwa amayi omwe ali ndi zizindikiro, anthu anali oipa, akazi oterewa anatsutsidwa kwambiri. Poona mkazi wokhala ndi zojambulajambula zokongola, anthu amamuika ngati chikhalidwe chosagwirizana ndi anthu, ndipo kuchokera kwa osamalira makhalidwe abwino, mkaziyo adalandira chidzudzulo. Kwa zaka khumi zapitazi, zochitika zosiyana zogwirizana ndi zojambulazo zafooka kwambiri, ndipo luso lojambula zojambulajambula lafika pamtunda watsopano. Mwina izi zikulongosola chifukwa m'misewu munali amayi ambiri okhala ndi zizindikiro, ngakhale posachedwa posachedwa kunali kosatheka. Kufalikira kwa zojambulajambula pakati pa akazi kunkayendetsedwa ndi nyenyezi za malonda.
Amitundu ambiri odziwika bwino, oimba ndi ojambula amasonyeza zojambula zawo kwa anthu, ndipo nthawi zina ndi mwatsatanetsatane akukambirana za tanthauzo la zizindikiro. Izi ndi zoona za amayi otchuka omwe asokoneza lingaliro la amayi omwe ali ndi zizindikiro zambiri, komanso zifukwa zomwe hafu yokongola yaumunthu imafunira zokongoletsa ndi zojambulajambula. Kaŵirikaŵiri pa thupi lachikazi, zojambula zokongola zimawoneka ngati zokongoletsera.
Momwe amuna amachitira zojambulajambula mwa amayi
Okonda "zokongoletsa kosatha" ayenera kudziwa momwe amuna amamvera za zokongoletsera za akazi. Malinga ndi kafukufuku pakati pa anthu, mwatsoka, pali ambiri a iwo omwe ali ndi lingaliro lotsatira lokhudza mkazi yemwe ali ndi cholembera:
- iye anali mu malo omwe sali kutali kwambiri;
- iye ndi woimira ntchito ya kale;
- iye amakonda kukonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Mwamwayi, mgwirizano woterewu pakuwona chizindikiro cha mkazi kwa nthawi yaitali udzakhalapo m'maganizo mwa amuna ndi akazi. Amuna amaganiza kuti ngakhale mtsikana ali wamng'ono mukhoza "kulekerera" chilembo, koma mwa mkazi wachikulire amawoneka opanda pake. Kuonjezerapo, pakati pa anthu apo pali lingaliro - "zolemba pamaso." Chizindikiro si "kumaso" chikuwoneka choipa. Izi zikutanthauza kalembedwe ka mkazi - momwe amachitira zinthu, zomwe ali ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti chizindikiro chake chiyenera "kugwirizana" ndi chikhalidwe cha mtsikanayo.
Ponena za zizindikiro pakati pa akazi pakati pa amuna pali maganizo atatu.
- Komabe, chabwino, "ndibwino kukana." Amuna omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino pa zojambulajambula mwa amayi ndi ochepa. Pano, malingaliro abwino amakhudzidwa ndi zochitika za kugonana. Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti amuna omwe ali ndi lingaliro limeneli kawirikawiri amaganiza za zojambula za amayi sizomwe zikudziwika bwino, mwachitsanzo, ngati zimakhudza "akazi ambiri", zingakhale zabwino, ndipo ngati ndi funso la "okondedwa awo," lingaliro lingasinthe. Khalidweli likufotokozedwa ndi kuti chifaniziro pa thupi lachikazi chimakopa kwambiri, kuphatikizapo amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chizindikiro chokongola ndi chokongola pa msungwana wodziwika (kapena wosadziwika) amachititsa chidwi cha munthu, motero kumayamika kwambiri. Zimakhala zovuta kwa mkazi wokwatiwa kuti akambirane ndi mwamuna wake kuti akhale ndi chithunzi pa thupi lake.
- Malo ndi kukula zikufunika. Amuna akafunsidwa ngati amakonda zojambula pa thupi la mkazi, ambiri adayankha: malingana ndi malo ake komanso kukula kwake. Amuna ambiri omwe amaoneka ngati zovuta kuziwona, ndizochepa, choncho ndi bwino kukana zojambula zazikulu. Ponena za malo a zizindikiro, anthu amaganiza kuti malo opindulitsa kwambiri ndi khungu, chikopa, chiuno, scapula, buttock, khosi. Koma pa phewa la mkazi chiwonetsero chachikulu chikuwoneka mopanda ulemu. Ndikoyenera kudziwa komanso kuti amuna (ngakhale si onse) sakonda izo ngati pali zizindikiro zoposa ziwiri pa thupi la mkazi.
- Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthu ayenera kukhala wabwino. Lingaliro limeneli limapangidwa mwa amuna omwe sali osiyana ndi zojambula pa thupi la mkazi. Kwa amuna oterewa, zizindikiro sizitanthauza kukongoletsa, kapena manyazi, kapena njira yofotokozera, komabe ngati chithunzi chimachitidwa bwino komanso / kapena pamalo osapindulitsa, chingathe kupanga phlegmatic. Pakuti amuna oterowo ali pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana mwiniwake - khalidwe lake, khalidwe lake, ndipo kenako chizindikiro.