Nchifukwa chiyani tikuopa kusungulumwa?

Zikuwoneka ngati kusungulumwa kungakhale kotani? Kawirikawiri zimakhala zovuta kuti titenge kanthawi kuti tidzakhale ndekha ndi moyo wathu wonse. Koma chodabwitsa, moyo wamakono sukugwirizanitsa anthu, koma, mosiyana, umachulukitsa anthu osakwatira. Kutsutsana kwa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kusokonezeka kwa magalimoto kumasiya nthawi yocheperapo kuti azilankhulana, ndipo zipangizo zamagetsi zimalowetsa abwenzi, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amangofanana ndi chiyanjano. Zonsezi zimatipangitsa kukhala omasuka. Kusokoneza kulankhulana
Munthu ndi chinyama, ndiye chifukwa chake amamva kuti alibe nkhawa. Chisinthiko ife tazolowereka, ndipo ndizokhazikika, kukhala mu gulu - kusonkhanitsa chakudya palimodzi, kudzimverera otetezedwa ngati kulimbana kwa adani. Ndipo mantha akusiyidwa kuchokera pamenepo: kwa nthawi yayitali ya kukula kwaumunthu, amene anatsala yekha sakanatha kupulumuka ... Kuonjezerapo, amuna ndi akazi ali ndi chikhumbo choyambitsa cholinga cholenga banja ndi kubala ana. Ichi ndichizolowezi, ndipo zopotoka zake zimayambitsidwa ndi umunthu wa umunthu kapena maganizo omwe amalandira nawo ali mwana kapena akakula.

Kawirikawiri munthu amakumana ndi kusungulumwa pamagulu awiri: maganizo ndi maganizo. Tili ndi mtima wokhazikika, timadzidzimitsa mkati mwathu, timatengeka ndi kudzipanda pake, kutaya, opanda pake. Pokhala ndi maganizo okhaokha, chiwerengero cha chiyanjano ndi dziko lapansi chacheperachepera, ndipo chizolowezi cholankhulana chonchi chikuphwanyika. Maganizo akuti "Ndine ndekha" amawonetseredwa makamaka kuti ndifunikira kuikidwa mu gulu linalake kapena kukhudzana ndi wina. Tikukhutira kwambiri ndi zosowa izi. Monga kupweteka kwa thupi kumatiteteza ife ku zoopsa zathupi, kusungulumwa kumagwiranso ntchito monga "ululu waumphawi" - pofuna kuteteza munthu ku zoopseza zomwe zimatsogolera kudzipatula. Kungakhale chitsimikizo chimene mukufunikira kuti musinthe khalidwe, kulimbikira kwambiri ku ubale. Ochita kafukufuku ku yunivesite ya Boston adapeza kuti ngati munthu ayamba kudzimva kuti amusiyidwa ndi kusiya, ndiye kuti ayamba kugwira ntchito mofanana pa nthawi yomwe amatha kuwonongeka. Pankhani imeneyi, zinaonekeratu kuti ubongo waumunthu umapereka chizindikiro chimodzimodzi chakumva kupweteketsa maganizo ndi thupi.

Chipulumutso mukulumikizana
Ngati tiyesera kufotokoza momwe timamvera zokha, ndiye kuti tikukamba za chikhalidwe chomwe chimakumbukira imfa. Kusungulumwa kwa ife sizongophiphiritsira kufa. Timakhala ndi zopanda pake, kutayika kwa tanthawuzo ndi chidwi m'moyo, chifukwa palibe kanthu kotsalira komwe kangakhoze kuwonetsa, kukhutitsa chinthu chofunikira. Kufikira kwina, kudzipatula kumawoneka ngati imfa. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti timayesa kusungulumwa ngati chinthu cholemetsa, chopanda chiyembekezo - chili ndi mantha, ngati kuti tili kale kumanda, komwe kuli mdima, chete, palibe wina kapena kanthu koma iwe.

Sigmund Freud adaphunzira yekha kukhala yekha chifukwa amagwirizana ndi mantha a imfa. Anakhulupilira kuti anthu amaopa kuti sadzafera kuti akhale osungulumwa. Ndi imfa, chidziwitso chimatha kukhalapo, koma mkhalidwe wodzipatula, momwe ife timaganizirabe, koma ife tonse tiri okha, timasamala kwambiri. Njira yokha yomwe mungapewere izi ndi kuyankhulana, potero kutsimikizira kuti mulipo. Kudzipereka kotereku n'kofunikira kuti psyche ikhale yoyenera, koma ngati palibe, mantha akuwonekera.

Zimakhala zovuta kulingalira, koma pamoyo wa munthu pali nthawi imene sasungulumwa. Malingaliro a psychoanalysis, izi zimachitika ali mwana, kumayambiriro kwa mapangidwe apamwamba: mwanayo akumva kumverera kwa kugwirizana ndi chilengedwe - "kumverera kwa nyanja". Tikangoyamba kuganiza, tidziwa zomwe zilipo mdziko lapansi, tikhale "opanda chiyembekezo" nokha - ndipo yesetsani kuligonjetsa kudzera kulankhulana. Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, kuopa kusungulumwa kwakukulu kumakhala ndi ntchito yabwino - kumatipangitsa kuti tigwirizane. Ndipo ngati mukuwoneka padziko lonse - umagwirizanitsa gulu lonse.

Amayi, musadandaule.
Titha kukhala m'banja lalikulu ndikudzipatula kwa ena. Koma pali ena mwa ife omwe samasautsidwa kwambiri ndi kusungulumwa. Kodi chifukwa cha "chitetezo chotere" ndi chiyani? Kukhazika mtima kwakukulu kwa anthu awa kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi mfundo yakuti dziko lawo lamkati limakhala ndi zithunzi ndi ziwerengero za anthu apamtima oyandikana nawo - amathandiza kuwunikira maminitsi, maola ndi masiku omwe munthu angathe kuthera kunja kwa gulu la wina. Tili otsimikiza kuti "zinthu" izi zimakhala mkati - mwachitsanzo, mayi wachikondi, wothandizira, - sadzatichoka.

Kukhwima msinkhu komanso kuthekera kugawanika kumatanthauza kuti mwanayo, ndi chisamaliro choyenera cha iye kuchokera kwa mayi, amatsimikizira chikhulupiliro cha malingaliro abwino a malo akunja. Chithunzi ichi cha Amayi Amkati, omwe adzalandire nyenyezi yotsogolera, chithandizo ndi chithandizo m'nthaŵi zovuta za moyo, zaikidwa ngakhale akadakali ana. Timamanga dziko lathu pamaziko a zochitika zenizeni. Ngati mayi weniweni anali wokwanira, womvera, wokondana, anali pafupi, pamene tinathyola bondo lake, titonthozedwa, tikamaliza kusukulu - ndiye fano lake ndikulowa mkati. Ndipo pakakhala zoipa, tikhoza kutembenukira kwa iye ndikupeza mphamvu kuchokera kwa iye. Kawirikawiri ife timatembenukira ku chiwerengero ichi ndikumva chisoni, ndipo pamene zinthu zikupita moipa kuposa kale lonse. Tikhoza kunena kuti chifukwa cha chiwerengero ichi, timadziganizira tokha tsiku lililonse.

Mosiyana mosiyana, umunthu wamkati umamangidwa pakati pa iwo amene, m'miyezi yoyamba ya moyo wawo, amamverera kutaya ana. Mmalo mwa mayi wachikondi, munthu wotero amakhala ndi zosowa zamkati. Malinga ndi asayansi, chochitika cha kukhala mwana yekha pamaso pa amayi ake kumakhudza momwe adzawonetsere kusiya kwake.

Ndipotu, anthu saopa kusungulumwa kotero, kuchuluka kwa maganizo, kudzipatula kuchokera mkati. Mudziko lino, timaoneka kuti tikutaya amayi athu amkati ndikuyamba kukhala osungulumwa, kuchoka kwathunthu ndi kusowa chikondi.

Tulukani kuzungulira
Ngati anthu onse akuopa kuti kusungulumwa ndi kopindulitsa, ndiye kuti nthawi zina zimakhala zopweteka kwambiri. Vuto lokhala muzitseko zatsekedwa ndilopambana, pamene mantha a kudzipatula amachititsa kusiyana kwakukulu kwambiri. Amatha kulankhula nafe, mwachitsanzo: "Musapite nthawi, mudzasiyidwa, mudzakhalanso nokha" kapena "Musapange anzanu - adzakupatsani." Kumvetsera mawu a mantha athu, timanyalanyaza kufunikira kokambirana, kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzathu.

Mukasungulumwa, sizikutanthauza kuti pali chinachake cholakwika ndi inu. Koma ife sitikudziwa izi ndikuyamba kuganiza kuti "zosayenera", "zopanda pake". Ndipo zimachitika kuti anthu osungulumwa akudandaula kwambiri: amachita chilichonse chomwe chingatheke kuti akhale ndi abwenzi, kuti akhale amodzi. Izi ndi zopweteka kwambiri, zokhoza kuthetsa zonse zomwe zingayesetse kuthetsa kudzipatula. Kawirikawiri kusungulumwa kumawonetsedwa mwa mkwiyo, ukali ndi mkwiyo umene umagawanitsa munthu ndi ena.

Ngati mantha a kusungulumwa akukhala osokonezeka, mukhoza kuyesetsa kulima gawo limene mantha sakupulumuka. Izi zikutanthauza kubwezeretsa, kuwerengera zotsatira, kupereka mwayi kuwonetsedwe kwa chikondi, kuseketsa, kudalira ndikudandaula za pafupi.

Kukhala wosungulumwa pamene palibe ma contact wodzaza ndi tanthauzo ndi zachilendo. M'dziko lamakono, zofuna zowonjezereka za kukhazikitsidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi maubwenzi. Kuzindikira kuti kusungulumwa monga mbali yofunikira ya moyo wa munthu kungathe kuwongolera mphamvu kuthetsa vutoli, m'malo movutikira. Kuvomereza nokha popanda kutsutsidwa ndi sitepe yoyamba ndi yolondola kwambiri.