Si chinsinsi kuti dziko la mkati la hafu yokongola yaumunthu likukonzedwa mosiyana ndi la anthu. Izi zimachitika chifukwa chakuti amai amakhala ndi chiopsezo cha chilengedwe, ndipo amamvera kwambiri zomwe zimachitika kunja. Kotero, mu zovutitsa, zomwe zimachitika zimapezeka nthawi yomweyo, yomwe si njira yabwino yothetsera aliyense wa ife. Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti malingaliro pa izi kapena izi, kuphatikizapo, zimadalira makhalidwe enaake. Kotero akatswiri a zamaganizo atulukira mitundu 4 ya amayi omwe ali ovutika kwambiri kuposa ena.
1. Zonse komanso nthawi zonse m'manja mwawo
Chofunika kwambiri: sangathe kugaŵira ntchito, amakhulupirira kuti zonse zimadalira pa izo zokha. Palibe amene angayambe bwino. Ndizovuta kwambiri, ntchito yabwino. Iye amagwira ntchito mwamphamvu, iye sakudziwa momwe.
Cholakwika choopsa: sakudziwa nthawi yoti asiye. Sikumva kutopa ndi kutopa. Zotsatira zake, mavuto okhudzana ndi thanzi, kapena kutopa kumaphatikizana wina ndi mzake. Izi ndi zofanana ndi bomba la ora. Ndi nkhani chabe ya nthawi.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi izi: ndikofunikira kupuma, kulola thupi kupumula ndi kupeza mphamvu. Musati muzilande izo. Ntchito iliyonse ikhoza kugawidwa, koma osati kutengedwa kwa onse mwakamodzi. Ndikofunika kuphunzira kukhulupilira ena.
Zochita za anthu a mtundu umenewu:
- Ikani pepala losalekeza patsogolo panu. Ndipo yesetsani kulemba zochitika zambiri zomwe mungakwaniritse. Kenaka muwerenge mosamala.
- Ndipo tsopano taganizirani chithunzichi. Chimodzi mwa zochita zanu sichikuchitidwa ndi inu, koma, mwachitsanzo, mnzako kuntchito. Ndipo, tiyeni tinene, munthu uyu sakulimbana ndi ntchito inayake. Chotsatira ndi chiyani? Kodi chingachitike n'chiyani? Kodi ndizotheka kuti zotsatira za zolakwa zomwe zapangidwa sizingatheke? Kapena, mwina, palibe dziko lonse limene lidzachitike? Mwinamwake mwadzipangira vuto, koma kwenikweni palibe vuto konse.
2. Wangwiro
Chinthu chachikulu: Ndikukhulupirira kuti chirichonse chiyenera kukhala chabwino komanso nthawi zonse. Chokhacho. Iye amayesera kubweretsa chirichonse ku ungwiro. Ndi ovuta kwambiri komanso okayikira kwa anthu oyandikana nawo, poganizira kuti akadali opanda ungwiro.
Cholakwika choopsa: kuyesa kusunga ndondomeko yake yabwino, mwanjira ina amamvetsetsa kuti ungwiro sichipezekapo, zomwe pamapeto pake zingayambitse kuvutika maganizo.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi izi: kudzifotokozera nokha kuti ungwiro si wofunika kwambiri, ndipo sikoyenera kuyesetsa kuti ukhale woyenera komanso mochulukirapo kuti ufunire ena.
Zochita za anthu a mtundu uwu: pitani masewera ochitira masewera kumene mungathe kusewera masewera a ana ovuta. Dziwani kuti kayendetsedwe ka onse pa nthawi ya masewera ana ndi osasamala, koma amamva chimwemwe chochuluka, chomwe chimawasiya masewera omwe sagwirizana ndi mapulani .
3. Complieant
Chofunika kwambiri: zopanda mavuto, amayesa kuthandiza aliyense, chonde aliyense, nthawi zina ngakhale sichiri mu mphamvu yake. Iye sakudziwa momwe angatsutse poyera kapena kutsutsa.
Cholakwika choopsa: chilakolako choteteza aliyense posafuna zofuna zawo, chimayambitsa maziko a kuvutika kwa maganizo, zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha njira yeniyeni yomwe imabweretsa mavuto. Ndipo iyi ndi njira yosasinthika. Popeza kupsyinjika sikupita popanda tsatanetsatane. Izi zikhoza kutsogolera, mwachitsanzo, kuvutika kwa umunthu wa psyche, popeza kuti kupanikizika sikudutsa popanda tsatanetsatane.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi izi: musawononge zofuna zanu.
Zochita za anthu a mtundu umenewu:
- Musanavomereze kupereka ntchito ina, ganizirani ngati mukufunadi kuchita izi.
- Ganizirani za zomwe mungapereke mwa kuchita izi kapena utumiki wanu, ndi zomwe mudzapeza ngati mutatsatira.
4. Mkazi wabwino
Chinthu chachikulu: nthawi zonse ndimasangalala , kumwetulira nkhope yake, kumakhala ndi chiyembekezo. Uyu ndi bwenzi labwino, wogwira ntchito yabwino, mkazi wabwino, mayi wabwino kwambiri. Zosamveka bwino. Anthu, monga lamulo, nthawi zambiri amazunza ubwenzi wake komanso amafuna kuthandiza aliyense.
Zojambula zoopsa: perezhivaniya, mtima weniweni, nthawi zonse izi zimakhala mkati. Nthawi zonse amaletsa mtima wokhumudwitsa mwa iwoeni, samawachotsa, koma amawabisila ndi chigoba cha mkazi wangwiro. Zonsezi ndi nthaka ya kutuluka kwa ziwonongeko.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi izi: kugaŵira maudindo.
Zochita kwa anthu a mtundu uwu: phunzirani kukana ndi kusakhala onse mwakamodzi, ndi kuchita "theka."