Ukazi, ndi chiyani?
Ukazi ndi gulu logwirizana ndi zandale, zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa pazofanana za kugonana. Panali gulu muzaka za zana la 18. Gulu loyamba la chikazi limagwera pa 19 ndi theka la zaka za zana la 20. Pa nthawiyi kunali kulimbana kwakukulu kofanana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Kuchokera ku theka lachiwiri la zaka za zana la makumi awiri, mzere wotsatira ukuyamba. Ogwira ntchito samafuna malamulo okha, komanso amalingaliro enieni. Chakumapeto kwa zaka makumi asanu ndi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri, kayendetsedwe kake kamakhala kwakukulu. Akazi ambiri akuyamba kutsimikizira lingaliro la chikazi, misonkhano yowonongeka ndi misonkhano, mabungwe ndi magulu akulengedwa. M'zaka za zana lachisanu ndi chitatu, chisangalalo chozungulira kayendedwe kakang'ono kakang'ono.
Mwinamwake, palibe chisokonezo chomwe chimayambitsa kusamvana kwakukulu, monga chikazi. Kodi gululi ndi cholinga chanji? Malingana ndi ochita zotsutsa, cholinga chake ndikulitsa uzimu wa amayi.
Ngati poyamba chiphunzitso cha chikazi ndi chirichonse chokhudzana ndi chiwonetserochi chimawoneka kuti nzika zathu zakhala zosiyana ndi zosazindikira, ndiye pambuyo poti "Iron Curtain" idakweza chikhalidwe ichi chinayamba kupitirira moyo wathu.
Mkazi, ndani uyu?
Lingaliro la omwe ali akazi achikaziwa, akhala atagawanika kale. Inde, n'zosamveka kuti wachikazi ndi mkazi yemwe amachirikiza lingaliro lolingana kwathunthu pakati pa ofooka ndi olimba.
Akazi achikazi safuna kuti azidalira amuna. Wina amatsutsa iwo chifukwa cha izi. Ndipo amuna ambiri ndipo samvetsa tanthauzo la kayendetsedwe kake konse, ndipo amanjenjemera ndi zifukwa zotsutsa.
Kuchokera ku deta ya kafukufuku yomwe inachitidwa pa theka lachidziwitso cha umunthu pazinthu zomwe akazi amagwiritsa ntchito, ambiri adayankha kuti zochitika za amayi oterezi ndi zachiwawa kwa anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Atsikana makamaka amapita kunkhondoyo, ndikutsimikizira kuti ndine woyenera. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi amayesa kutsogolera mu chirichonse, kuntchito ndi kunyumba. Powonongeka, iwo amawauza maganizo awo kwa onse ozungulira, kuwawatsimikizira kuti ali olondola. Khalani opanda nzeru. Ngati mutayesa kutsutsa ena mu adiresi yawo, mukhoza kuthamangira mkuntho. Azimayi amadziona ngati akudzudzula okha. Muzolephera zonse za moyo, amaimbanso mlandu amunawo.
Chotsatira chotsatira chomwe chimasiyanitsa akazi ndi amayi ena ndi khalidwe lachimuna. Atsikana amatsanzira anthu ambiri. Zikhoza kutsatiridwa mu zovala, mwa khalidwe, ndipo ngakhale phindu lawo limakhala "munthu".
Mbali ya chidwi kwa akazi amtunduwu amakhalanso "wamwamuna". Akazi amayesetsa kuti adziwonetsere okha komanso kuti asagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo sakhala ovuta kwambiri, kapena amatha kupirira ntchito zomwe anthu ambiri amawaona kuti ndi abambo.
Zomwe zimakondweretsa atsikana wamba (banja, njira ya moyo, kusowa manja, kulera), iwo sali okondweretsedwa, ndipo amachititsa manyazi.
Chimodzi mwa zochitika za ochita zotsutsa ambiri ndizolakwika. Atsikana safuna kukwatira, kukhala ndi ana ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala okha.
Chikazi - chomwe chimatanthauza, ndi chabwino kapena choipa, ndi kovuta kuyankha. Lingaliro lomwelo la kayendetsedwe kano linali labwino ndipo, tisati tiimbe mlandu moyo, azimayi apindula kwambiri. Komabe, ngakhale ambiri akuchirikiza gululi amatsutsa izi, udindo wa amayi ndi kukhala mayi ndi wosamalira malo. Izi ndi zachilengedwe. Ndichifukwa ninji mumenyana ndi amuna ndikuyesera kuti muwatsimikizire omwe ali abwino? Tiyeni tigwirane wina ndi mzake ndi ulemu, ndiyeno moyo wathu udzakhala wosangalala kwambiri.