Fufuzani munthu
Kaŵirikaŵiri m'magulu amtunduwu, anyamatawa amachoka omwe sangathe kusankha malo awo m'moyo. Amunawa amasiyana kwambiri ndi anzawo anzawo, koma pakadali pano sangathe kumvetsa zomwe ziri komanso momwe zimakhalira. Ndicho chifukwa chake achinyamata amasankha kukhala mbali ya subculture, kuimirira kuchokera pagulu, kuti asamve ngati otayika. Ambiri mwa achinyamata awa ndi chikhalidwe cha chilengedwe chomwe sichinazindikire kuti kupanga chinthu chachilendo ndi chabwino. Kuonjezera apo, ambiri mwa anzako ochepa sagwirizana ndi chilakolako chawo cholenga ndi kulenga. Ndicho chifukwa chake anyamatawa amakhala osalongosoka, chifukwa mumtundu wodalirika nthawi zonse pali chiyambi pomwepo ndipo palibe amene amatsutsa. Kawirikawiri anthu opanga nzeru, ngakhale atadzipeza okha, asachedwe kuchoka ku subculture, chifukwa iwo amangoyankhula ndi zachilendo, mosiyana ndi anthu ena. Koma zamakono, zambiri zachilengedwe zimamvetsabe kuti dziko losavomerezeka, kwenikweni, silolokhalokha komanso lodziimira palokha. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti chisankho chokhala osadziwika nthawi zambiri achinyamata sazitenga mwaulere komanso mwadongosolo, koma motsogoleredwa ndi anthu akunja. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri anyamata amapita ku subculture pomatsutsa.
Chipulotesitanti
Achinyamata ambiri samagwirizana ndi njira ndi njira zomwe anakulira. Ena mwa ana amenewa amachititsa kuti achinyamata azitha kuchita zambiri, ena amalepheretsa, kutsatira malamulo ndi malamulo omwe amawathandiza kuti asapangidwe. Koma monga momwe zinalili, zinali zotsutsa, ana awa asankha kukhala ngati wina aliyense. Komanso, kuponderezedwa kwa mwanayo kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ngati amayi nthawi zonse amachititsa kuti mwanayo azichita bwino, kuti akhale mayi weniweni, kuvala madiresi oyera komanso osaiwala kuti amayi ayenera kukhala osalimba, achifundo komanso odzichepetsa, ndiye kuti zidzakhala zomveka bwino, ngati pamapeto pake, mtsikana amene safuna zomwe akuwona mayi, kenaka amavala zovala zakuda, atapachikidwa pa khosi makilogalamu atatu a maunyolo a ziboliboli, odulidwa mwachidule ndikusiya punk. Mwina sangakonde malingaliro ndi zolinga za punk, koma kuyang'ana zomwe mayi ake amafuna, mwanayo adzayesa kusankha chisankho chomwe ambiri adzatsutsana ndi malingaliro onse a amayi anga. Ndipo pokhala wamakani ndi kudziimira yekha mwanayo, mphamvu zake zidzakhala zowona mu zovala ndi khalidwe.
Zikatero, makolo ambiri amapanga kulakwa kwakukulu, kuyamba kuumiriza kwambiri ana awo, kuwatsutsa, kuwaletsa kuti apite mumsewu mwanjira iyi. Koma anyamata samamvetsera kenaka ndikuyamba kugwedeza mzere wawo ndi kutentha kwakukulu. Zikatero, amayi ndi abambo sakudziwa kuti ana amachita mwanjira imeneyi kuti azivomerezedwa monga momwe alili. Ndi makolo okha omwe amaletsa mwanayo kuti azikhala momwe akufunira, osati monga momwe akufunira, kuvomereza zofuna zake ndi zokonda zake zonse ndikuwonetseratu zidzatha msanga. Koma mmalo mwa izi, makolo amasindikizira mochulukirapo, ana amakwiya ndipo safuna kulowerera. Tsiku lililonse iwo amakhulupirira kuti sikungakhale bwino kuti asiye kusonkhana mwamsangamsanga, chifukwa amamvetsetsa ndi kuthandizidwa pamenepo.
Thandizo
M'madera osavomerezeka, ana nthawi zambiri amapeza kuti kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandizira, zomwe ali nazo kawirikawiri. Mu ichi palibe chodabwitsa, chifukwa gulu la neformalyyavlyayutsya la zofuna, anthu omwe ali ndi chinthu chofanana. Choncho, zimakhala zosavuta kulankhula, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zokambirana. Zonsezi sizinagwirizane ndi kulimbana ndi maiko akunja, omwe nthawi zambiri amawachitira nkhanza, komanso amawachitira nkhanza. Ndi chifukwa chake ali wamng'ono, ana amakopeka ndi ma subcultures. Nthawi zonse Vtsivilnyh sizingatheke kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mamembala onse. Inde, anthu osadziwika sali abwino kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, anthu olimidwa mosiyana akhoza kukhala chidani pakati pawo, kukonzekera mikangano ndi zina zotero. Koma makhalidwe oterewa amadziwika kale ndi anthu, komanso osati ochuluka. Anthu osadziwika bwino amakhala ophatikizana mosavuta kuti awononge anthu omwe safuna kuvomereza momwe iwo aliri. Ndichifukwa chake, pakuyang'ana pamalingaliro osiyana, ana amapita ku subcultures, akukhumba kuti amvetsetse ndi kuthandizira. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika ndi anthu omwe ali osowa m'magulu awo (mwachitsanzo, mwana wodalirika ndi wanzeru amaphunzira m'kalasi pakati pa ziphuphu zomwe zimamuda ndi kumuseka), ndipo amafuna kupeza anthu omwe angathe kulankhulana mwamtendere, kuti mu mphindi yotsatira adzaseka kapena kukhumudwa. Anthu osavomerezeka omwe amachititsa milandu yotereyi sachitika mobwerezabwereza ndipo chifukwa cha izi sizowoneka kuti si maganizo kapena chikhumbo chochita china chimene ena sangathe. Ndicho chifukwa chake ana amafanana ndi ma subcultures.
Kukongola kwa mkati
Nthawi zambiri anthu amadziona kuti ndi oipa. M'dziko losavomerezeka, iwo adzalandiridwa monga momwe alili. Pakati pa anthu osavomerezeka simungakumane ndi anthu okongola. Kawirikawiri mumagulu amodzi amasonkhana, omwe alibe kukongola kwakukulu kunja, koma chifukwa cha izi, safuna kumva kuti ali ndi vuto. M'dziko losalongosoka, zambiri zomwe zimayamikirika ndizochititsa mantha, kudziwonetsera, kudzikonza, kuposa maso, tsitsi ndi nkhope. Ndipo kwa anthu, makamaka atsikana amene nthawi zonse amanyansidwa ndi ena chifukwa cha maonekedwe awo, malingaliro ameneŵa amakhala ngati mankhwala osokoneza bongo, chifukwa samalandira katemera ndi makompyuta ndipo samanyoza, amavomereza zomwe ali nazo chifukwa cha kukongola kwawo, osati kwa mphuno yoyenera ndi maso aakulu. Inde, musaganize kuti pakati pa anthu osadziwika bwino mulibe anyamata abwino ndi atsikana. Iwo ali osaganizira, koma samadzitamandira chifukwa cha kukongola kwawo ndipo samayesa kunyoza ndi kuwapondereza iwo omwe Mulungu wapereka ndi makhalidwe ena abwino. Mwa njira, kuvomereza kwa munthu momwe iye alili ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe achinyamata amachitira posaulula. Pang'ono ndi nthawi, ena mwa iwo perebaryvayut maofesi awo ndikuchoka pa izi, ndipo mwanjira ina sangathe kuthana nawo okha, choncho amakhala osayenerera moyo.