Momwe chikumbumtima chimakhudzira maloto athu

Ubongo wathu sumagwira ntchito kuyambira 10.00 mpaka 18.00, pamene ife tikukhala mu ofesi, koma nthawi zonse, ngakhale mosiyana kwambiri. Kuphatikizapo mu loto. Maloto onse ndi uthenga wochokera ku chikumbumtima. Izi zinamvetsedwa ngakhale kale. Koma kodi umunthu wamkati wathu umati chiyani kwa ife, kubweretsa izi kapena malotowo? Mukufunikira kalata yamaloto
Socrates ankawona maloto ngati mawonetseredwe a mau amkati ndipo adalangiza kumumvetsera. Olemba a Talmud adati: "Maloto onse ali ndi tanthauzo, kupatula omwe amachititsidwa ndi njala." Maloto osasinthika ali ngati kalata yosatulutsidwa. " Zizmund Freud amatchedwa kutanthauzira kwa maloto njira yachifumu yophunzirira chidziwitso. Kawirikawiri, psychoanalyst yekha ndi amene amatha kufotokoza tanthauzo la uthenga wa usiku. Ndipotu, maloto onse ayenera kuyandikira payekha, kupatsidwa chikhalidwe, zochitika ndi mavuto ena a munthu. Choncho, ngakhale wotanthauzira kwathunthu maloto mu chivundikiro chopanda pake sangapereke ndemanga zowonjezera za zomwe talota komanso zofunika kwambiri tanthauzo lake. Maloto ndizowonetsera umunthu. Munthu wochenjera kwambiri, vuto lovuta kwambiri, maloto a freakier, a mitundu yosiyanasiyana ndi yowala usiku amakhala. Koma "kulemba" kosamveka "kuchokera mkati" I "kungathe kuwerengedwa nokha, popanda kulembera ku msonkhano ndi psychoanalyst.

Tiyeni tiyese!
Amapatsidwa: Wokondedwayo wapereka mwayi, mukuganiza, ngati mungakwatirane naye. Ndipo ndikulota kuti mukupita kunyumba ya bwenzi lake, yemwe amalandira ife ndi mkazi wake (omwe salipo).

Funso ndilo chifukwa chiyani?
Yankho: Mudzakhala okonzeka kukwatira osati chifukwa cha kuyamikira kwanu, koma kwa bwenzi lake. Mkazi weniweni ndi inuyo nokha, koma kulandiridwa mwachikondi kumasonyeza kuti mukufuna ntchitoyi. Choncho, musafulumire kunena inde. Kukana sikofunika, koma ndi bwino kuyembekezera ndi ukwati.

Musayambirenso
Chikumbumtima chimakonda kutumiza zizindikiro kudzera m'maloto, zomwe zatsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi. Akatswiri a zamaganizo a University of Denver (USA) G. White ndi L. Tietro anapempha ophunzirawo kulemba mndandanda wa ntchito zomwe zingatheke, ndipo patatha masiku khumi ndi awiri kulemba mapepala awo osaiwalika. Ndipo theka la gululo analandira ntchito yoti aganizire pa chinthu chimodzi kuchokera mndandanda wamfupi tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo musanayambe kuganizira, musanagone. Chotsatira chake, adatha kupirira ntchito zawo mosavuta komanso mogwira mtima. Choncho tingathe kunena kuti: podziwa bwino, gawo lochepa chabe la mavuto a moyo lidzathetsedwa.

Ngati chiwembucho chimabwerezedwa nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti kupirira kotereku kumayenera kusamalidwa? Makamaka ngati ndizovuta. Mwachitsanzo, amakhulupirira kuti kugwa m'maloto (kuchokera ku thanthwe kupita kumtunda wozama kapena kuchokera kumalo osungiramo zida zambiri) kumasonyeza kuwonjezeka kwa nkhawa ndi maganizo osokonezeka. Komanso, kukwera kwa thanthwe kapena pansi, vuto lalikulu kwambiri, ndilofunika kuliyandikira. Kuchedwa mu maloto (pa sitimayi, tsiku, msonkhano) ndi nthawi yowopsya. Izi zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wolakwa komanso wosakhutira ndi yekha, kudzudzulidwa mkati mwa zochita zake zisanachitike.

Ntchito ya usiku
Maloto sangathandize kokha kupeza ndi kuthetsa vuto lalikulu, komanso kuchepetsa mavuto.

Amapatsidwa: mwakhala mukuyesera "kubereka" ku lipoti la sabata kale. Ndipo usiku maloto, ngati kuti mwanjira iliyonse sangathe kubadwa (mwa mawu enieni a mawu).

Funso ndilo chifukwa chiyani? Mungatenge mayeso a mimba?
Yankho: uyu ndi wophika mkango. Amatsuka zitsamba pamutu pake: zosafunikira, nkhawa, nkhawa. Maloto ngati amenewa samalola kuti agwiritse ntchito vutoli ndipo musalole kuti ubongo ukhale wosokoneza. Ndipo mu maloto amenewa, chidziwitso chokhazikika chimatsimikizira malingaliro athu opitilira ndi mauthenga omwe analandira ndi ubongo pa kufufuza kwadzidzidzi, amawaganizira kapena kuwatengera magalimoto. M'mawa munthu amadzuka ndikupanga sayansi, amawunikira mzere wokongola, nyimbo ya Mulungu kapena ... lipoti. Pulofesa wa yunivesite ya Oxford ndi wolemba buku lakuti "The Human Brain" S. Greenfield akulangiza aliyense kuti asunge cholembera ndi pepala patebulo la pambali pake kuti athe kukonza malingaliro ofunika, atonthozedwa ndi tulo. Apo ayi, m'mawa, zikhoza kutanthawuza kuti malingaliro odabwitsa, pamodzi ndi zomwe zili m'malotowo, adachotsedwa pamtima.

Ngati kugona kuli kolembedwa, kudzakhala kumveka komanso kulingalira
Lembani mndandanda wa ziganizo zitatu, maina ndi mazenera omwe munagwiritsa ntchito, pofotokoza maloto. Ndipo dziwani momwe akumvera. Mwachitsanzo, mu 1 st column mawu a mtundu predominate: wonyansa, wodzikonda, osalondola; mu 2 nd - misonzi, chiwonongeko, zonyansa; lachitatu - ndikuwopa, sindikufuna, ndatopa ... Ndizovuta kuti ndidziwe kuti ndi uthenga uti wa mkati "I" womwe uli mkati mwa maloto. Mukachiyesa molondola, mutha kuthetsa vuto la maubwenzi osasangalatsa.

Kugona si maloto
Titha kumva mau amkati osati maloto chabe. Pomwe akudzuka m'mawa kapena kugona masana, chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso chiri pafupi kwambiri.

Mkhalidwe wachedwa kuwuka.
Iwe ukadzuka, sambitsa nkhope yako, upange khofi, uzimitse banja lako ... Ndiyeno alamu achoka. Zikuoneka kuti zonsezi zinali zogona tulo - pamene mudadzuka, munayambiranso. Choncho pali kutopa, thupi kapena makhalidwe. Chikumbumtima chimati: "Ayi, sindidzakulolani kuti mudzuke" ndikunyenga chinyengo chakuti mwuka kale. Muyenera kuganizira za kupumulira mopuma! Ingokhala, ingogona pansi. O, inu simukugwiritsidwa ntchito powononga nthawi? Koma mukuona, chikumbumtima chimatsimikizira kuti tsopano mukusowa zosangalatsa izi.

Mkhalidwe wosokonezeka.
Ndili kuti? Ndi tsiku liti? Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Kodi ndiyenera kudzuka ndikudzuka mwamsanga? Sikofunikira kuti usiku usanachitike kunali mvula yamkuntho. Mkhalidwe wotero nthawi zambiri umachitika mwa anthu omwe moyo wawo ndi ntchito yawo, choyamba, alibe nthawi yeniyeni, ndipo kachiwiri, iwo sakhutira nawo. Ngati kuwuka kotereku (nthawi zina kumaphatikizapo zizindikiro zapakati: kuthamanga kwa mtima, kugwedezeka, kutuluka thukuta) zimachitika nthawi zambiri, nthawiyi ndi nthawi yopanga moyo kukhala wokonzeka komanso wothandiza.

Mkhalidwe wa "kugona tulo."
Kugalamuka ndi kosangalatsa. Chinachake chachilendo, chodyera, koma chofunda, chabwino chimalota. Ndipo potsiriza amadzuka sakufuna. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika motsutsana ndi misampha ya mavuto otha msinkhu, pamene maganizo ali pafupi ndi kugonjetsedwa. Chikumbumtima chimathandizira osachepera kubwereranso kumoyo wachimwemwe, kukhulupirira mu zabwino. Konzani dziko ili (kumbukirani mabungwe ati, malingaliro omwe muli nawo), nthawi ndi nthawi, iitaneni mosamala. Mwina, ndicho chinsinsi cha kusintha kwabwino.

Chidziwitso chadzidzidzi.
Ndinadzuka ngati phokoso. Palibe kugona tulo, tagona tulo. Mwamsanga - muzoona. Chofunika kwambiri chikuchitika mu moyo, ndipo, kani, ndi chizindikiro "+". Zimatengera malingaliro onse kotero kuti chidziwitso sichitha. Choncho, n'zosavuta kupanga zosankha. Koma, kwina kuli kosavuta kulakwitsa. Ngati palibe nthawi yoti mumvetsere malingaliro anu masana, ndiye kuti musayambe kugona mwamsanga. Sizidziwikiratu kuti ndi nthawi izi zomwe zidzamvetsetse bwino zomwe zidzachitike.

Dziko likuwopsya.
Anali ndi nthawi yolakwika ndi achibale, zochitika zoopsa. Dzukani, mukuyembekeza kuti anali maloto chabe. Pambuyo pake, anthu amawatcha achibale awo kuti apeze ngati zonse ziri bwino - kugona kwambiri kumakhala ngati chonchi. Koma m'malo mwake, ndi alamu osadziwika bwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti zonse sizikuwoneka bwino. Zonse zimawoneka zabwino, zokhazokha zokhazokha ("Chifukwa chiyani mwanayo amakhala ndi mwamuna uyu?"). Koma chikumbumtima chikuwona kuti ndi udindo wake kuchenjeza za mitundu yonse ya chitukuko cha zochitika pa mutu wakuti "chinachake cholakwika".

Boma ndi losangalatsa.
Mumatseka maso anu kwa mphindi yokha, ndipo panthawi ino, zochuluka zedi zidzakhala zochuluka! Mwachitsanzo, zina zosiyana, anthu osadziwika - mwachidule, opanda pake. Mkhalidwe woterewu wa kuwuka ndi chizindikiro cha moyo wamtendere komanso wowerengeka, zochitika zochepa chabe, zochitika, zooneka bwino. Mwina ndi nthawi yoti muchite chinachake: kusuntha, kusintha ntchito, kupanga anzanu atsopano. Inde, ndizoopsa komanso zochitika. Koma ndizofunikira kuti mukhale ogwirizana!