Maloto okondweretsa amapangidwa kwa pafupifupi akazi onse ndi amuna. Mwa ichi palibe chodabwitsa, ndipo ngakhale choposa, chosachiritsika. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti maloto odetsa nkhaŵa amalembedwa ndi omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana. Chifukwa cha ziweruzo zoterozo chinakhala chosangalatsa cha anthu ndi ziphunzitso za Freud, yemwe onse anawona mtundu wina wa kugonana. Ndipotu, simuyenera kukhulupirira kwambiri katswiri wa zamaganizo ndikugwiritsira ntchito psychoanalysis pa chilichonse chomwe chili mzere. Chowonadi ndikuti maloto osokonezeka ndi mafanizo makumi asanu ndi anai mphambu asanu ndi anai amodzi mwa zana, amatanthawuza chirichonse, koma osati mavuto a moyo wa kugonana.
Ndipotu, maloto osokoneza bongo ndi mafanizo ndikuwonetsa kusamvetsetsa kwa mavuto anu. Monga mukudziwira, ubongo waumunthu umakonda kuvala mavuto osiyanasiyana ndi zochitika m'mabuku ena. Maloto onse ali ndi tanthauzo lake. Malingaliro achiwerewere sakhalanso osiyana. Amatanthauzira mavuto osiyanasiyana m'moyo waumunthu. Kenaka, tikambirana za momwe tingafotokozere maloto ngati amenewo.
Chikondi chosakanikirana
Mwachitsanzo, ambiri amalota maloto okhudzana ndi momwe amachitira chikondi ndi woimira amuna awo. Ngati munthu yemwe akuwona malotowo, mwambo wa chikhalidwe, ndiye kuti mafanizo ngati ubongo amatsutsa kuti asabisire amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kawirikawiri, maloto amenewa amalembedwa ndi omwe ali ndi mavuto ndi bwenzi kapena chibwenzi, ndiko kuti, wokwatirana naye. Ndizosatheka kwa chisankho chawo chomwe chimapangitsa kuti munthu ayambe kuona malotowa.
Kuyesera kopambana
Ambiri amalota maloto, omwe amayesera kuti agwirizane ndi wokondedwa wawo ndi kugonana, koma izi nthawi zonse zimakhala zoletsedwa: ndiye mwadzidzidzi pali alendo omwe saloledwa, ndiye modzidzimutsayo amatanthauza milandu yofunikira ndipo amatha. Maloto oterewa akuyimira kuyesa kuthetsa zovuta pamoyo, kuchita chinachake. Ngati mumalota maloto ngati amenewa, ndiye kuti mukufuna kuwona chinachake, koma simutuluka. Vutoli likadzathetsedwa, maloto ngati amenewo sadzakuvutitsani.
Chiwawa
Chiwawa ndi maloto okhudzana ndi malingaliro alipo mwa anthu omwe akuvutika ndi ena. Iwo amangokhala osamvetsetseka komanso osasangalatsa mmalo omwe iwo ali. Zingathe kukhudza onse ogwira ntchito kuntchito, ndi achibale okhumudwitsa omwe amakhala ndi moyo wawo wonse ndi uphungu wawo ndi makhalidwe awo. Mwachidule, pamene mumoyo weniweni mukugwiriridwa, mumaloto umakhala chiwawa cha kugonana.
Amasowa pakati pa anthu
Ngati munalota kuti munali wamaliseche pamalo amodzi, zikutanthauza kuti pali machimo omwe inu ndi inu mukuwopa kuti wina adzadziwa za iwo. Pamene mutayenda wamaliseche pakati pa anthu m'maloto, amanyazi ndipo nthawi zonse amayesera kubisala, ndiye pa nthawi ino ubongo wanu umatembenuka kukhala zizindikiro zotero kuti ndiwopseza kuwululidwa. Kuti muchotse maloto amenewa, muyenera kuvomereza kuti mwachita kapena kupeza njira ina yothetsera chikumbumtima chanu.
Kugonana ndi makolo
Pamene anthu alota kuti agone ndi makolo awo, nthawi zambiri amawopsya ndikuyamba kudziyesa okha. Ndipotu, palibe choipa komanso chosokonezeka m'maloto awo, chifukwa amangotanthauza kuti munthu akufunadi kukhala ndi bwenzi ndi munthu wodziwika ndi wotchuka. Makolo ndi abwenzi athu. Ndipo pamene tikufuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi chikondi cha munthu yemwe angakhale woyang'anira wina kwa ife, ndiye malingaliro osadziwika amapereka ndendende mafano.
Kugonana kosavomerezeka
Ndipo maloto omalizira - maloto osakondweretsedwa kwa inu. Kwa munthu aliyense maloto amenewa ndiwodziwika. Kwa wina ndilo lotowa zogonana ndi mbale, wina - zogonana ndi munthu wamkulu kapena wamng'ono ndi zina zotero. Malotowa amasonyeza kuti chinachake chikuchitika m'moyo mwanu chimene muyenera kupirira, koma sichiri chovomerezeka pa malingaliro anu ndi chikhalidwe chanu. Mukuvutika chifukwa chakuti simungasinthe chilichonse, ndipo ubongo wanu umakupatsani maloto osakondweretsa omwe mumafuna kuganizira zomwe zikuchitika ndikuyesetsani kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli.