Chofunika ndi chiyani?
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri pakuyankhulana ndi nokha ndiko kuwona mtima. Nthawi zambiri timasocheretsa anthu ena, chifukwa nthawi zina mabodza ndi ofunikira. Koma nthawi zambiri timadzinyenga tokha. Timadzipangira tokha makhalidwe omwe tilibe, timatsitsimutsa chikumbumtima ndi chinyengo, timakhudzidwa ndikukumbukira zinthu zina, timadzikhutiritsa zomwe sizinachitikepo. Izi zimatipangitsa ife kulakwitsa kwambiri za ndalama zathu, nthawi zina m'maso mwathu timakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe tilidi-zabwino kapena zovuta, ziribe kanthu.
Choncho, ndikofunikira kuti mutha kudziuza nokha, nthawi zina.
Kodi mungakambirane chiyani?
Pa chilichonse chimene chimakusangalatsani. Pawekha ndi maganizo anu kapena malingaliro anu, za mavuto ndi zosangalatsa, za abwenzi ndi ntchito. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati zinthu zina zimativutitsa chifukwa sizili bwino kwa ife. Zitha kukhala zovuta kapena chiyembekezo chomwe sichidziwika kuti chithunzichi chikuwoneke bwino. Tikamanena zosiyana ndi maganizo athu, timapeza njira zothetsera mavuto ena mosavuta.
Nthawi zina kukambirana koteroko kungathandize kuthetsa zodandaula. Ndikwanira kulankhula nokha ndi wekha, kufotokoza zonse zomwe zophika pa wolakwira, ndipo kufunika koyambitsa mkangano kudzangogwera paokha.
Sikuti aliyense angathe kusankha pazokambirana. Ngati pazifukwa zina simungathe kudzikakamiza kulankhula mokweza, kudzakhala kokwanira kukambirana. Kuyankhula nokha ndi chinthu cholimba kwambiri, chifukwa tilibe munthu pafupi kuposa ifeyo. Kukambirana kungayambidwe ndi makalata. Njira yowiririka imene akatswiri a maganizo amagwiritsa ntchito ndi makalata. Mukhoza kulemba kalata nokha kapena wina. Lingaliro ndilokuti timapereka zomwe takumana nazo komanso zomwe timaganiza pa pepala, koma cholinga cha makalatawa sikuti tilembere kalata kumalo ena, koma cholinga chanu kuti mudzidziwe nokha.
Zimathandiza motani?
Kulankhula kwa iwe kumathandiza kwambiri kuthetsa nkhawa za m'maganizo ndikupeza mayankho a mafunso ambiri. Izi zingathandize kuthetsa kusatsimikizika. Mwachitsanzo, mumaganiza kuti mulibe makhalidwe ena, makhalidwe kapena zizoloŵezi zokhala osangalala komanso ogwirizana. Tangoganizani kuti muli ndi makhalidwe amenewa ndikudzilankhulira nokha kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi bwino. Chilichonse chomwe munganene nokha kuchokera pa malo awa chidzazindikiridwa ngati malangizo okhawo omwe angakhale othandizira.
Kuyankhula kwawekha kumathandiza kuphunzira momwe mungamangire kukambirana ndi ena. Mudzaphunzira kunena zomwe mukuganiza kuti n'zolondola ndi zowona ndipo adzatha kupereka mayankho a anthu ena, choncho, m'moyo weniweni zidzakhala zosavuta kulankhulana.
Kulankhula nokha sizapenga, sikoyenera kugwedeza mpweya kwa maola ndi tirades yanu. Zomwe tili nazo ndizo malingaliro athu, zomwe zimathandiza kuti tikhale ndi zokambirana. Ngati munthu asankha kulankhula momasuka, ali ndi mwayi womvetsetsa zikhumbo zake ndi zomwe iye ali. Nthawi zambiri timalakwitsa, chifukwa timadziona kuti ndife opanda mphamvu kapena odzidalira kwambiri. Kulankhulana momveka bwino kumathandiza kuwulula malonda anu enieni ndi minuses, ndicho chifukwa malangizowa nthawi zambiri amaperekedwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo a anthu omwe amafunikira kudzimvetsa okha.