Zifukwa za kusiyana.
Inu mwathyola, ndipo inu mukukhala chinyengo chakuti mwinamwake, chirichonse chikanakhala chosiyana kwa inu. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ndithudi, mumaika chiyembekezo chanu pa zomwe zikhoza kubwezeretsedwa. Ndipo ngati inu (kapena nonse a inu) mumakhala ndi malingaliro, bwanji kuti musalota za izi? Koma musanaganize ngati kuli koyenera kubwezeretsa mabwenzi akale, muyenera kutsogoleredwa ndi chifukwa chimene mudasweka. Ndipo zifukwa zotero, monga lamulo, zambiri. Ndipo amatha kuchita nawo zinthu zopanda chilungamo, zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kuiwala, kupulumuka, ndi iwo omwe adachoka pamtima kwambiri, kwa nthawi yayitali. Pachiyambi choyamba - ngati mutathyola, ngati kuti mutero, opusa, osamvetsetsana, nsanje popanda chifukwa, kapena chifukwa cha kakang'ono kakang'ono, kamene kachiwiri kakumbukira. Ndi zifukwa izi, mungathe kuziyeza mozama, kuzidutsa kwathunthu ndi zosavuta kuyamba zonse ndi wanu wakale kuyambira pachiyambi. Koma palinso zifukwa izi zomwe zimakhudza ubwenzi wanu ngakhale mutayanjananso. Ndizo zomwe zimatchula zinthu zomwe zimasiya "chipsinjo chakuya pamtima" cha wina wa zibwenzi ndipo n'zovuta kunena chabwino. Mwachitsanzo, wachibwenzi wanu wakale, yemwe akufuna kubwereranso ndi chibwenzi chanu, anakuchitirani nkhanza (ngakhale kamodzi), anakweza dzanja lake pa inu, mwamanyazi ndi zina zotero. Ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zinakupangitsani kuti mutengepo ndondomeko yoyenera ndikukana ayi ku maubwenzi awa. Pankhaniyi, nkofunikira, choyamba, kuganizira za tsogolo lanu pafupi ndi munthu uyu. Pambuyo pake, sizowona, pokhala mutagwirizana ndi wanu wakale, mudzakhalanso ndi zowawa zonsezi panokha. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri anthu samasintha ndipo ngati zinali choncho, n'zotheka kuti izi zidzachitikanso. M'mawu ena, ngati mukufuna kulingalira ngati mukufuna kubwereranso kwa munthu uyu, ganizirani zachithunzichi mosamala ndikukumbukira chomwe chinapangitsa kuti mulekanitse.
Ife tikufanizira zowona.
Ngati simunasankhepo, bwereranso ku chibwenzi chanu kapena mupitirize kumunyalanyaza, yesetsani kulemba mndandanda wa makhalidwe ake abwino komanso oipa. Ndipotu, mukudziwa mawu akuti: "Papepalayo idzapitirizabe", - bwanji osayang'ana? Pezani pepala, liilowetseni muzitsulo ziwiri: loyamba lembani mafala onse (tchulani zomwe mukuwatsogolera), ndipo chachiwiri - zochepa za chibwenzi chanu chakale. Kenaka uwaike pansi pa pillow, ndipo m'mawa, pamutu watsopano, werengani zonsezi. Inde, munganene kuti mmalo mwake mungathe kuponyera ndalama. Koma sikudzakupatsani kanthu, chifukwa ndi za tsogolo lanu, momwe mukufuna kuti muwone pafupi ndi inu munthu wodzipereka ndi wachikondi. Choncho werengani mabungwewa ndi ma minuses ndipo mudzipangire nokha chiganizo chimodzi, kaya mufunikira kubwerera ku chiyanjano choyambirira. Mwa njira, kumbukirani zomwe munagwirizana ndi munthu uyu komanso momwe munayesera kuphunzira ndi kuzipeza. Kumbukirani kuti izi zikutanthauza zambiri ndipo zingakuthandizeni kusankha chomwe mungachite.
Malamulo amasankha zambiri.
Kodi mau oti ubale wanu wakale ndi ati? Sabata, mwezi, miyezi isanu ndi umodzi? Kodi ndinganene chiyani kuti simunathe kupeza nthawi yayitali yomwe "okonda golide" omwe okondedwa amakhala ndi "kupuma wina ndi mnzake". Kapena mwinamwake inu simunakhale ndi mankhwalawa kapena munalibe nthawi. Koma mulimonsemo, ndithudi, mukhoza kubwerera ku maubwenzi awa ndikuyesani kumanganso. Chabwino, ngati mwakhala pamodzi kwa chaka, ziwiri, zisanu ... ndipo mudagawanika, ndikukhulupirirani, nkokayikira kuti chilichonse chidzasintha mukadzayambiranso. Ngati mulibe nthawi yokwanira yomanga chikondi chanu, sikungamvetsetsekanso kuti agwirizane palimodzi, chifukwa amatha kuphanso. Ndipo nthawi yachiwiri izi zidzakhala zopweteka kwambiri.
Khalani popanda kuganizira za inu ...
Mu kapu yamoto iliyonse, msoko umakhala wowonekera, ngakhale mutagwiritsa ntchito guluu wogwiritsira ntchito kwambiri. Ndizo zomwe zikuchitika mu ubale pakati pa anthu. Pitani kawiri mumtsinje womwewo, mulandu, ndithudi, wolemekezeka ndipo, monga akunena, atsimikiziridwa kale, koma gawo la chiopsezo limakhalabe nthawizonse. Izi ziyenera kukumbukira. Taganizirani izi, mwinamwake musabwererenso ku chibwenzi chanu chakale? Pambuyo pake, kukhala ndi chinyengo chakuti mungathe kupeza chilichonse kuchokera pachiyeso chachiwiri, zimangokuchotserani mwayi wokumana ndi weniweni, zomwe zonse zimatha kuyesa. Ganizirani, mwinamwake simukusowa kubwerera kumbuyo, koma nkoyenera kuyamba moyo watsopano (chisoni pa tautology) kuchokera tsamba latsopano ndi chikondi chatsopano!
Ndi malangizo othandizira: musabwererenso komwe mwatenthedwa kale, chifukwa zingakuchitikenso, ndiye kuti kutentha kumakhala kowawa kwambiri, ndipo chilonda chake chimakhala chozama. Ndinu woyenera kwambiri. Woyenera kukonda ndi kukondedwa popanda kuyesa, kubwereza ndi kuyesa "nambala ziwiri", zomwe, zosatheka, zingapereke malire. Khalani ndi tsogolo labwino, osati kale lomwe ndikuchotseratu malingaliro osayenera omwe amakubweretsani ku chibwenzi chanu komanso kale. Bwino!