Banja la America ndi lopatulika. Palibe kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi: Amayi a ku America pawebusaiti ndi achilendo, osati pamapeto a sabata. Amuna amakonza tsiku logwira ntchito kuti nthawi yochulukirapo iperekedwe kwa banja.
Ndipo momwe amayi anga amagwirira ntchito, ndipo bambo anga ali ndi ana, amakumananso mochuluka kuposa momwe timachitira. Ana nthawizonse ndi nkhani yozizwitsa, pakati pa chilengedwe chonse. Banja lonse limapita kumalo otsegulira sukulu ndi m'munda.
Kulera ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana kumawoneka mwachindunji. Mwana ndi membala wathunthu wa banja, ali ndi ufulu womwewo kuti avotere, monga ena onse, pazochitika zonse. Ayenera kulemekezedwa, ali ndi ufulu wotsutsa. Amamulangiza, amamufotokozera zonse kuchokera kumisomali yoyambirira, kumayambiriro amapereka ufulu wawo wonse, motero amawaphunzitsa kukhala odziimira okhaokha. Wokhala chete monga njati, amayi a ku America samada nkhaŵa konse kuti mwanayo akugwera m'matope, amazizira, akudumpha mumsewu mu December yekha mu zazifupi (chifukwa ankafuna chomwecho) ... Akadaganiza kuti akhoza kuchita zimenezo, musiyeni achite. Iye ali ndi ufulu wochita zolakwitsa ndi zochitika zake zomwe. Awonetsetse kuti dothi lidetsedwa!
Kumbuyo komwe
Koma malamulo abwino kwambiri pamene akulerera ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana ali ndi mbali yosiyana. Choncho, popeza kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wa moyo wake komanso zofuna zake, a ku America amafuna kuti chipangizochi chilemekezedwe komanso kuchokera kwa ana omwe sangathe kufotokoza izi. Inde, pamene mwana aphunzira kufotokozera momveka bwino zimene akufuna, amamvetsera mwa njira zonse, koma izi zisanachitike, potsutsana ndi zofuna zawo, makolo adzipatsa okha mphamvu. Amayi ndi abambo ali ndi ufulu wogona usiku, ndipo ngakhale mutadzuka mu chikwama chanu, palibe amene angabwere kwa inu. Amayi ndi abambo akufuna kupitirizabe moyo womwewo omwe amatsogola asanabadwe mwanayo, ndipo mwanayo amachokera kunyumba yomwe akuyamwitsa akukhamukira ku phwando lokondwerera kumene amamupatsa mwanayo kuti alandire aliyense wa alendo makumi anayi, ndipo samvetsera zomwe amachitapo. "Musadandaule!" - zikuwoneka kuti izi ndizo chithandizo chachikulu cha mankhwala a ku America, kumene kufufuza kwa mwana ndi a neonatologist atatha kubadwa kungaphatikizepo kuchulukitsa ndikudziwitsa kuti: "Mwana wodabwitsa." Kuwonanso kwina kwachipatala kudzakhala pafupifupi "bwinobwino". Cholinga chachikulu cha thanzi la mwanayo chidzakhala ngati: "Amawoneka osangalatsa, sizingakhale kuti adadwala!"
Ndipo agogo ake ali kuti?
Tiyenera kuvomereza kuti kutsutsana ndi kuleredwa kwa ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana nthawi zambiri kumakhala koyenera: komanso, pambuyo pa zonse, posachedwa (iwo anachotsa chikhomo, kuphunzira kuŵerenga) ... Muzinthu zambiri, chifukwa cha ichi, makolo a ku America amakhalitsa bata, monga Buddha, ndipo amakhala ndi chiyembekezo. Osati kuponyera mwachangu mu umayi ndi kusapanga zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi kupereka nthawi moyenera pa zosowa zawo ndi zikhumbo (ngakhale nthawi zina kuvulaza ana), amayi amapeza mphamvu zawo kwa mwana wachiwiri, wachitatu, wachinayi ... Mwana wa mayi uyu ndi wofunikira, Zingakhale pamalo oyamba, koma chilengedwe sichimangoyendayenda, monga ku Russia.
Zoona
Chimene sichiri kwenikweni ku Amerika, ndiko kugwirizana kwa agogo aakazi pakukweza ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana. Amayi agogo a ku America ambiri mwa amayi omwe amagwira ntchito mwakhama omwe amakondwera kwambiri kumangokhalira kukangana ndi mwanayo, koma osati kuposa
Banja ku Italy ndi banja. Choyera. Ziribe kanthu momwe munthu angakhalire ndi ubwenzi wapatali ndi achibale ake, ziribe kanthu kuti ndi wopanda pake bwanji, ngati ali membala wa banja, wina sangakayikire: sangamusiye. Kubadwa kwa mwana m'banja ngatilo ndizochitika kwa achibale ake apamtima okha, koma kwa ena onse omwe amatsatira "madzi asanu ndi awiri pa kissel". Mwana wakhanda ndi mphatso yochokera kumwamba, mulungu wochepa, onse omwe ali phokoso komanso okondwa, amodzimangirira pomwepo, ataponyedwa ndi zidole ndi maswiti. Ana amakula mu chikhalidwe chololedwa komanso kusowa kwa kayendedwe kake, komabe ali ndi mphamvu zowonongeka, zomwe zimakula kuti zikhale zowonjezereka, zowonongeka, zopanda phindu, zopanda phindu monga makolo awo. Kafufuzidwe ka mabungwe oyendera alendo akuwonetsa kuti ana a Italy ndi omwe amawonda kwambiri ku Ulaya: nthawi zambiri samapuma mpumulo kwa alendo ena, amapanga phokoso, samvera akulu, amadya kwambiri m'malesitilanti, amachita zokhazokha, osati malinga ndi maganizo a ena.
Kawirikawiri, banja la Italy, ana makamaka, ayenera kuloledwa kulowa m'nyumba mosamala. Ngati amayi ndi abambo amakangana, mwinamwake sangagule mbale m'nyumba mwanu ... Koma zinyenyeswazi zokwiya zimangokuphwanya makoti anu. Pambuyo pa ulendo wawo, zimakhalabe zoganiza kuti Mamai amayendayenda panyumbamo.
Zaka zovuta
Pamene ana akukula ndikulowa "zaka zovuta", makolo mwanzeru amapatsa ufulu, kapena kuti, mwachinyengo. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, malamulo okhwima ndi zida zotsalira zimatsalira, kuchepetsa ana a ku France zambiri kuposa anzawo anzawo ku America. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti a French kudziko lapansi amalingalira kuti ndi fuko losasangalatsa kwambiri kuposa a Puritan Achimereka.
Banja lamakono la Russia ndilo anthu awiri, makamaka okhudzidwa ndi ndalama ndi nyumba. Bambo wina m'banja la Russia amakhala wolimbikitsanso ntchito, ndipo amasiya kugwira ntchito zapakhomo komanso kusamalira ana. Mwachizoloŵezi, mayi amakhalabe pantchito mpaka mwanayo atakwanitsa zaka zitatu, koma pochita kafukufuku amayi amapita kuntchito kale kwambiri - kawirikawiri, nthawi zambiri, komanso anzawo a ku Western, chifukwa cha kudzikuza, kusamalira maganizo awo ubwino. Ku Russia masiku ano, zipangizo zamakono zodzimangira nyumba (njira yaikulu ya chilango) ndizolemba za Doctor Spock zikupitirizabe kukhala zogwirizana, komanso akatswiri ambiri a zamaphunziro a masiku ano omwe amapanga zochitika zachilendo zomwe si zachizoloŵezi zokhudzana ndi Soviet: kugonana, kugonana mpaka zaka zitatu, malingaliro kwa mwanayo ngati ofanana ...
Zoona
Ndalama zambiri zimakhalabe zosavuta, ndipo sukulu sizimapusitsa makolo nthawi zambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.
Banja la Chifalansa liri lamphamvu kwambiri kuti ana ndi makolo awo sakufulumira kukagawana ndi kukhala mosangalala pamodzi zaka makumi atatu (kapena kuposa!) Zaka. Choncho, maganizo akuti ali infantile, bezynitsiativny ndi osasamala, osati popanda chifukwa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti amayi nthawi zonse amakhala nawo kunyumba kuyambira m'mawa kufikira usiku - amayi a ku France amapereka nthawi yogawa pakati pa ntchito, zofuna zawo, mwamuna ndi mwana. Kwa mkazi wamantha wamakono wamakono, kudzidzimva nokha ndi ntchito sikofunikira kusiyana ndi akazi ena amitundu ya kumadzulo. Mwanayo amayamba kupita ku sukulu yapamtunda, amayi anga amabwerera kuntchito. Mwana wa ku France samapezeka kuti ali pakati pa banja lake, amayamba kudzikonda yekha, amakula yekha, amakula mofulumira.
Zoona za Chifalansa zimakhala zokwanira, mosiyana ndi America, zimatha kufuula mwanayo, koma kukwapula sikokwanira. Nthawi zambiri ana amakula pamalo abwino, koma kuyambira ali aang'ono amauzidwa kuti azitsatira malamulo okhwima: mverani amayi anu, musakhale opanda nzeru, musamenyane. Chifukwa cha ichi amalowa nawo timuyi mosavuta
Sungani mitsempha yanu!
Makolo achi Russia ali ndi mantha kwambiri, akuwona zoopsya zambiri za mwanayo kuzungulira dziko lapansi (osati popanda chifukwa), kudera nkhaŵa za tsogolo lake, yesetsani kuyamba ndi kumuphunzitsa mwamsanga, ndikuyembekeza kuti mwanayo apita ku malo abwino (musaiwale kuti ambiri mwa makolo a anyamata amafuna kupeŵa asilikali), musamakhulupirire madokotala ambiri, amazoloŵera kudalira mwambo wokhazikika m'mabanja awo kapena kufunafuna choonadi mwa njira zawo, m'mabuku ndi pa intaneti.
Makhalidwe apamwamba a Chinese, monga banja lililonse lachikhalidwe chakummawa, ndi udindo wa akulu, mgwirizano, komanso udindo wokhudzana ndi akazi. Chodziwika ndicho chifukwa cha zomwe zikuchitika panopa ndi kuphwanya malamulo, banja lachi China lingakhale ndi mwana mmodzi yekha. Choncho, nthawi zambiri ana amakula ndikusowa.
Chokhumba, khama ndi chilango cha Chinese zimasonyezedwa pa nkhani zolerera ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana. Ana kuyambira ali aang'ono amapita ku sukulu ya kindergartens (nthawi zina ngakhale miyezi itatu), kumene amakhala motsatira malamulo a ogwirizana mogwirizana ndi malamulo ovomerezeka. Njira yovuta imapereka ndi zipatso zake zabwino: ana amayamba kuyenda mofulumira pamphika, kugona ndi kudya moyenera malinga ndi ndondomekoyi, kukula kumamvera, mkati mwa chikhazikitso chokhwima kamodzi ndi malamulo onse okhazikitsidwa. Mwana wina wa Chitchaina akumenyera alendo kunja kwa tchuthi mwa kutsatira mosakayikira malangizo a mayiyo, samangopeka, angakhale maola pomwepo, pamene ana a alendo ena amawononga chakudya chodyera. Chinsinsi ndichoti mwana wakhanda amaphunzitsidwa kumvera komanso kumusunga.
Kuwotcha, malinga ndi miyambo ya Chitchainizi, kuyenera kuyima pamene mwanayo amatha kutambasula dzanja - kuyambira nthawiyi mwana, malinga ndi Chinese, akhoza kuphunzira kale kudya ndi supuni.
Kuyambira ali aang'ono, aphunzitsi ndi makolo akugwira ntchito mwakhama kukulitsa ana, ndipo izi za China zili pafupi ndi Russia ndi ntchito zathu zopititsira patsogolo polutoratok, cubes Zaitseva ndi njira zina.
Anthu a ku China samapewa mphamvu ndi zothandizira kuti mwanayo akule bwino komanso kufunafuna luso lake, ndipo ngati pali imodzi, ndiye kuti mwana yemwe ali ndi luso lophatikizidwa kugwira ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku amapeza zotsatira zambiri.
Mayi wa ku Japan sadzakweza mawu ake kwa mwana wake, ndipo mochulukirapo, samumenya. Iwo amamamatirabe ku nzeru zakale: mpaka zaka zisanu mwanayo ndi mulungu, kuyambira asanu mpaka khumi ndi awiri - kapolo, ndipo pambuyo pa khumi ndi awiri - bwenzi. Mwana wa ku Japan akhoza kukhala ndi chidaliro kuti nthawi zonse amamvetsera mwatcheru, abwere kuwapulumutsa.
Chinsinsi cha mtendere wa makolo a ku Japan komanso kumvera kwa ana ndi zophweka: ndizoyang'ana koyambirira kosaoneka kuti zonse ziloledwa kwa ana. Ndipotu, mafelemu alipo, koma makolo a ku Japan salerera ana poyera. Amapereka ndemanga kwa iwo, koma payekha komanso mwamtendere momwe zingathere.
Zoona
Masiku ano banja lachijapani lachijapani likukhala lamakono. Amayi samafuna kukhala kunyumba ndi mwanayo. Makolo ali otanganidwa ndi ntchito, achibale achikulire nthawi zambiri amadzipatula okha, ndipo chifukwa chake, ofufuza amanena za kusungulumwa ndi kunyalanyaza ana a ku Japan.
Vuto lina lachijapani - kusintha kuchokera ku gulu la "Mulungu" kupita ku gulu la "akapolo": kusukulu ya sekondale, kupembedza mwanayo ndi kumusangalatsa, kumakhala naye kusukulu akuyamba kufunsa zovuta. Aphunzitsi, omwe maubwenzi amamangidwira pa chiyanjano, amakhala wothandizira omwe angathe kulanga. Malamulo amakhala okhwima ndi omangiriza. Mwana akapita kusukulu ya sekondale, makolo amasankha malo omwe amapanga maphunziro apamwamba, ndipo kuyambira nthawi imeneyo ubwenzi wa ana a sukulu umatha ndipo mpikisanowo ukuyamba. Ana akutha kusintha kuchokera ku "mulungu" kupita ku "kapolo", choncho ophunzira a ku Japan kumeneko akutsutsa, komanso ambiri akuyesera kudzipha.
Mbali yapadera ya mayiko akummawa ndi udindo wodalirika wa amayi. Nthawi zonse amamvera munthu. Anthu amamudziwa ntchito yaikulu ya banja komanso kulera ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana. Kubadwa kwa mnyamata kumakhala kosangalatsa nthawi zonse, pamene maonekedwe a mtsikana angayambitse kusokoneza banja (ku China, mwachitsanzo, mtsikana wakhanda angathe kupatsidwa dzina lakuti Big Mistake).
Njira zosiyanasiyana za kulanga ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana:
Ku Russia, monga tonse tinamvekera, timagwiritsa ntchito ndodo, timasiya chakudya chamadzulo ndikuima pa nandolo kwa maola ambiri. Lamba ndi ngodya sizinatayike kufunikira kwake.
Ndipotu, nandolo ndi Chingelezi. Mwa njira, chilango cha boma ku Great Britain chinaletsedwa, koma mu 1986.
Ku China, iwo amamenya zala zawo ndi ndodo. Ku Japan, amakakamizika kuima ndi kapu ya khanda pamutu pake, akuwongolera mwendo umodzi kumbali yoyenera ndi thupi.
Ku Pakistan, pang'onopang'ono pang'ono, iwo anakakamizika kuwerenga Koran kwa maola ambiri. Ndipo chilango choopsa kwambiri cha ku Brazil - kuletsa kusewera mpira ...
Maphunziro a ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana mu kalembedwe ka Russian:
Buku lothandizira okwatirana ndi makolo a Middle Ages, limazindikira kuti ana ayenera kukondedwa, koma amalimbikitsa makolo kubisa chikondi chawo: "Musamamwetulire pamene akusewera." Zikuyenera kuti, moteronso kulera mwana, kholo lingakhoze kuliwononga ilo ndi kukweza munthu wodetsedwa, wodetsedwa. Pa nthawi yomweyo wolemba wa "Domostroi" amalimbikitsa makolo a ana "kugona, kulanga ndi kuphunzitsa, koma kuwatsutsa ndi kuwatsutsa." Chilango, malinga ndi olemba, ndicho chofunikira kwambiri pakuleredwa kwa ana m'mayiko osiyanasiyana, zomwe zimapatsa makolo kukhala okalamba, odekha ndi olemekezeka m'tsogolomu. Munalimbikitsidwa kuti muwonetsere kukoma mtima kwa ana anu: "Musamve chisoni, kumenya mwanayo: ngati mumupha ndi ndodo, sadzafa, koma zidzakhala zathanzi, chifukwa inu, mutha thupi lake, kupulumutsa moyo wake ku imfa ... Kukonda mwana wake, ndiyeno simudzitama. " Chinthu chachikulu mu maphunziro a ana m'mayiko ndi atsikana osiyanasiyana chinali chiphunzitso cha makhalidwe abwino kwa iwo kuti aziwachotsa ku "makampani."
Zoona
Ana Achimereka, mosiyana ndi "anzawo" a ku Russia, amavala zovala zochepa nthawi zina. Mwanayo, akudumphira nsapato pa November puddle kapena kutulutsidwa mu Januwale pamsewu wopanda mawondo, osasangalatsa. Ndipo samadwala nthawi zambiri, koma mosiyana, nthawi zambiri.
Lamulo lakuti "kusamba" limaphatikizapo, monga momwe timaonera, ngati chiwopsezo chapakhomo (ana atatu: amayi amodzi amanjenjemera, wina amawerenga nthano, ndi zonsezi - kuyembekezera mumsewu kuchokera ku gawo lachitatu), ndi kusayeserera koyenera pa nkhani zolerera ana Maiko osiyana: Amamerika sadzatero, monga mayi wamakono wa ku Russia, akufufuzira pa intaneti kufunafuna yankho la funso la ngati likuvulaza mwana wake. Amangochita zimene adokotala kapena amayi amamuuza, ndizo zonse.